Nora Ephron’s screenplay for When Harry Met Sally... was nominated for Best Screenplay Written Directly for the Screen in 1989. This is the scene at the beginning of the movie where Harry tells Sally that a man and a woman can’t be friends, because the guy always wants to sleep with the woman.

They’re in the diner, and Harry is looking at her slyly as she adds up the bill.

Sally What? Do I have something on my face?
Harry You’re a very attractive person.
Sally Thank you.
Harry Amanda never said how attractive you were.
Sally Well, maybe she doesn’t think I’m attractive.
Harry I don’t think it’s a matter of opinion. Empirically, you are attractive.

They get up and start to leave the diner.

Sally Amanda is my friend!
Harry So?
Sally So you’re going with her!
Harry So?
Sally So you’re coming on to me!
Harry No I wasn’t! What? Can’t a man say a woman is attractive without it being a come-on? All right. All right. Let’s just say, just for the sake of argument, that it was a come-on. What do you want me to do about it? I take it back, OK? I take it back.
Sally You can’t take it back!
Harry Why not?
Sally Because it’s already out there!
Harry Oh, Jeez, what are we supposed to do? Call the cops, it’s already out there!
Sally Just let it lie. OK?
They get into the car.
Harry Great! Let it lie! That’s my policy. That’s what I always say. Let it lie. [Pause] Want to spend the night in a motel? See what I did? I didn’t let it lie.
Sally Harry!
Harry I said I would and I didn’t.
Sally Harry!
Harry I went the other way.
Sally Harry!
Harry What?
Sally We are just going to be friends. OK?
Harry Great! Friends! It’s the best thing.

They drive off.

Harry You realize of course that we could never be friends.
Sally Why not?
Harry What I’m saying is—and this is not a come-on in any way, shape, or form—is that men and women can’t be friends because the sex part always gets in the way.
Sally That’s not true. I have a number of men friends and there is no sex involved.
Harry No you don’t.
Sally Yes I do.
Harry No you don’t.
Sally Yes I do.
Harry You only think you do.
Sally You’re saying I’m having sex with these men without my knowledge?
Harry No, what I’m saying is they all want to have sex with you.
Sally They do not. [Becoming concerned he may be right]
Harry Do too.
Sally They do not.
Harry Do too.
Sally How do you know?
Harry Because no man can be friends with a woman that he finds attractive. He always wants to have sex with her.
Sally So you’re saying that a man can be friends with a woman he finds unattractive?
Harry No, you pretty much want to nail them too.
Sally What if they don’t want to have sex with you?
Harry Doesn’t matter. Because the sex thing is already out there, so their friendship is ultimately doomed, and that is the end of the story.
Sally Well, I guess we’re not going to be friends then.
Harry Guess not.
Sally That’s too bad. You were the only person that I knew in New York.

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